Dalam perspektif ini, ngapel hanya diperbolehkan jika:
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Traditionally, ngapel occurs on a Friday or Saturday night. The pemuda (young man) arrives at the home of the gadis (young woman) bearing a mandatory oleh-oleh (gift), typically pisang goreng (fried bananas) or es buah (fruit iced tea) bought from the local kaki lima (street vendor). He is then led not into the private living room, but to the teras depan —a semi-public space visible to neighbors. Dalam perspektif ini