: Boundaries define where you end and another person begins, protecting you from manipulation and burnout. The "5 Cs" of Communication : To set boundaries effectively, use the ompassionate, oncise, and onsistent. Intrinsic Worth
The joy is waiting for you on the other side of that guilt. And honestly? You deserve it.
If your adult sibling is broke because they gambled, your "help" is enabling. The selfish (and loving) act is to let them face their consequences while you protect your peace.
According to the principles found in the book and its summaries , boundaries are the "rules of engagement" for your life.